Well, we're all moved! Just to a bigger place just down the road, but I still felt a little bittersweet leaving the other apartment. When Jared and I met, he'd just moved in, so we really fell in love in that apartment. We kissed for the first time in that living room, we got ready to go to the judge to get married there, I lived though his deployment there.
I'm always one to look back. I like to analyze past events and to make sure I can keep precious memories fresh in my mind. But, it's time to look forward! We live in a real people's dwelling now. Much more room, and office for Jared to do his school work, a guest room and everything. I can cook dinner in the kitchen here and we can eat it at a table! We're working on becoming real grown-ups and preparing for all that means. It's exciting and I'm focusing on that!!
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Thursday, August 26, 2010
An old fashioned wife
I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about what it means to be a wife, both in today's standards and in the way God intended us to be.
My start as a wife was somewhat stunted, getting married and then having my husband leave so soon after. But it, I have come to believe, has been stunted by Jared and I living together first. It has made our start into married life far less climactic that perhaps it is supposed to be. We are having to muddle out way though figuring out how our roles as married people, as opposed to dating people, have changed. So, here we are struggling to figure out who is going to do the housework now that Jared is not the stay-at-home partner and who holds the responsibility for income and who holds responsibility for household things. I would much rather it be the old-fashioned way. But I don't think my husband entirely agrees. So there is the conundrum. I already feel like I'm supposed to do it all, and therefore I'm failing at all of it. I think Jared feels like he is supposed to lead and earn income, but he just doesn't really want to. And when he has less to do, he is less productive. When I have more to do, I am less productive.
Does anybody feel the same way? Anybody think I'm crazy? I feel stuck and need some help!
My start as a wife was somewhat stunted, getting married and then having my husband leave so soon after. But it, I have come to believe, has been stunted by Jared and I living together first. It has made our start into married life far less climactic that perhaps it is supposed to be. We are having to muddle out way though figuring out how our roles as married people, as opposed to dating people, have changed. So, here we are struggling to figure out who is going to do the housework now that Jared is not the stay-at-home partner and who holds the responsibility for income and who holds responsibility for household things. I would much rather it be the old-fashioned way. But I don't think my husband entirely agrees. So there is the conundrum. I already feel like I'm supposed to do it all, and therefore I'm failing at all of it. I think Jared feels like he is supposed to lead and earn income, but he just doesn't really want to. And when he has less to do, he is less productive. When I have more to do, I am less productive.
Does anybody feel the same way? Anybody think I'm crazy? I feel stuck and need some help!
Saturday, August 21, 2010
And we're married... still!
After more than 6 months, here is the update...
Jared returned from Afghanistan unscathed and we started to work out how to be married people. It was bumpy to begin with, as would be expected for newlyweds and just returned war vets. Then, in March, he and I were cast together in Camelot at La Crosse Community Theatre. I played Queen Guenevere and Jared played a knight, Bliant. He had a great time and it was really good for us. He got to see what doing theatre was like and we got to spend time together doing something constructive. It really helped get us though the rough patch.
And here we are on August 21st, two days after our one year anniversary and our finally getting to celebrate our wedding! We called it the "weddiversay" and we had an absolutely wonderful time! check out some of the first photos below, taken by my wonderful bridesmaid, Ali Close.
Jared returned from Afghanistan unscathed and we started to work out how to be married people. It was bumpy to begin with, as would be expected for newlyweds and just returned war vets. Then, in March, he and I were cast together in Camelot at La Crosse Community Theatre. I played Queen Guenevere and Jared played a knight, Bliant. He had a great time and it was really good for us. He got to see what doing theatre was like and we got to spend time together doing something constructive. It really helped get us though the rough patch.
And here we are on August 21st, two days after our one year anniversary and our finally getting to celebrate our wedding! We called it the "weddiversay" and we had an absolutely wonderful time! check out some of the first photos below, taken by my wonderful bridesmaid, Ali Close.
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| My reception shoes! I love my Chucks! |
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| Ceremony shoes from Kick in La Crosse! |
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| My dress, from Bonnie's Wedding Center in Viroqua. |
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| I wore the pearls that were my 16th birthday present from my mom and dad. |
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| The reception was held at Norskedalen in Coon Valley, decorations done by Caitlin Bures and my bridesmaids (this idea was Kelsey Taunts!) |
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| My flowers from Old Oak Family Farm in Bangor, arranged by Caitlin. |
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| Dancing with my daddy to Nat King Cole and Natalie Cole's Unforgettable. |
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| Jared and I dancing to You and I by Michael Buble |
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